Why I unplugged from the egregore of The Compassion Key.
Just over a year ago, I left The Compassion Key.
I'd been in that world for more than 10 years - first as a student, then as a practitioner. I was genuinely grateful for everything I'd learned and practised there. But a couple of things were nagging at me that I couldn’t ignore any longer.
The tools I'd been trained to use weren't working for everyone, and I couldn't figure out why. I had hunches but nothing I could name yet. And underneath that, a quieter feeling: that I wasn't here just to be a practitioner of someone else's modality. That there was something I was supposed to synthesise. Something that was mine.
I had no idea what that was. But I’d tackled a juicy ancestral pattern and become fascinated by the idea of collective thought form entities (what the French call “egregores”). So I decided to take the leap.
It was terrifying.
I was moving out of an environment that had given me a steady stream of new people, a container, and a context. Parts of me were convinced that I wouldn't be able to make it on my own. And when I realised how terrified those parts were, the deal was sealed. I thought: well, fuck… now I have to leave. Because I cannot let that fear keep me here.
So I jumped.
A year later, I am flying.
I have an approach that is me and my Greater Self working together to do something that, as far as I'm aware, no one else is doing. I have a framework around egregores that’s proving to be genuinely useful - especially in working with family patterning, but also with the broader social, cultural, organisational and institutional patterns that most people are swimming in without knowing it.
With the benefit of hindsight, it's clear to me that staying would have cost me this. At minimum it would have taken me a lot longer to find my own thing. Possibly I never would have found it, or it never would have found me.
I can’t point to exactly why my connection to my Greater Self got such a significant upgrade in the last 12 months. There's no single thing I can credit. I know I started paying a lot more attention to what was actually happening in my body. I know I consciously connected with the Milky Way twice a day for a year (I'm still doing it). And I know I unplugged from a bunch of egregores. All that seems to have created space within which my Greater Self could actually find me.
Earlier this year, I got on Zoom with my coach and friend James Lavers to record an interview. The decontamination approach I use now was just forming at that point, so I don't go deep into that - but I do talk about egregores. I also talk about where I'd landed in terms of some perspectives on the energetic environment we're all living in now, what healing actually looks like in 2026 and beyond, why the guru industrial complex keeps us stuck in endless loops, and what the role of a practitioner has become.
The interview is edited and live now. You can watch it here.
If, like me, you've been a healing junkie at some point in your life, you might find it interesting. It's just under 30 minutes. Perfect for consuming with a cup of tea or whatever warm beverage you're into.
Defining Egregores & How They Work
[00:00:00 – ~00:06:25]
What egregores are (energetic/etheric beings, collective thought-forms)
How they’re created and fed by attention, emotion, and repetitive focus
Hierarchies of egregores (family, cultural, global; alcoholism/addiction examples)
The importance of attention and “unplugging” from destructive/anti‑life egregores
The Egregore of Therapy & The Guru Industrial Complex
[00:06:27 – ~00:12:25]
“Egregore of therapy” as a foundation for the guru industrial complex
Old assumptions: “healing is hard, takes a long time”
Changing energetic environment (1960s to 2026; lighter, faster shift potential)
Role of practitioners as witness‑guides instead of gurus
Moving from endless problem‑cataloguing to imagining what’s beyond the pattern
Personal Journey, Bypassing & Mundane Embodied Healing
[00:12:30 – ~00:19:20]
My personal story post‑Microsoft and the intensive search for “what’s wrong with me”
Spiritual bypassing & conspiracy bypassing
Performance culture around big catharsis and “impressive” healing
Reframing healing as mundane, day‑to‑day noticing and regulation
Focusing on how we relate to emotions (e.g., anger) and grounding change in the body
Trauma Patterning & Nervous System Completion
[00:19:26 – ~00:25:20]
Definition of trauma imprinting/patterning (interrupted survival responses)
Fight/flight/freeze and what happens when they can’t complete
Gazelle/lion example and shaking as natural nervous system reset
Humans’ tendency to analyze instead of discharge; critique of over‑analysis
“Done/healed” as a myth that keeps people in dependency
From Endless Healing to Building the New via Tiny Brave Moves
[00:25:26 – end]
Shifting from “relentless healing” to imagining and building new structures
Doing “as much healing as is required” to enable creating
Joining communities and projects (e.g., community gardens, businesses)
Tiny Brave is for highly sensitive/hypersensitive humans who’ve often felt overwhelmed and powerless
“Tiny brave moves” as grounded, pragmatic steps to redesign your world
Other Resources: blog posts + new workshop with exercises for egregore inventory and decontamination