Why Your Family Patterns Don’t Change (Until You Recognise The Bigger Game)
How ancestral healing is bound to the collective field.
Like most of my friends and clients I’ve collected certifications in different modalities, done 20+ years of therapy, attended retreats in Bali and India and the mountains of Montana… but most of it just didn’t help the way I’d hoped it would.
For years, I couldn’t shake the secret thought that it must somehow be my fault that what seemed to help other people didn’t work for me.
But I needed to see a much bigger picture. Because there’s always more work you can do… if you choose to work beyond the boundaries of your individual lifetime.
Once you’ve cleaned up the repeating loops that have played out in your own life and inside your own family, you can see them as a microcosm of the macrocosm.
Then you can appreciate how your family patterns are local instances of collective patterns. And you may begin to sense the entities that are “born” from collective thought forms - made from energy, and interacting with any human who’s plugged into them.
Chapter 1 - The DNA I Inherited
My DNA contains two contrasting (often competing) threads.
My mother’s lineage includes Huguenot Protestant reformers who were almost wiped out by crusading Catholics in France in the 1500s. I am descended from one baby boy, the lone survivor of a massacre that claimed a whole community.
The Huguenots trace their lineage back to the Cathars. This thread connects my DNA with the Christ/Magdalene lineage.
My father’s heritage includes the ancestor you heard about in this story, who brought (or possibly continued) the influence of Freemasonry into the epigenetics in that branch of the family tree. This thread connects my DNA with the death cult.
So my family stories include both “persecuted” 13th Century Cathars and “persecutor” 19th Century Freemason Australian colonialists.
The contrast is embedded in my genetics. Two different expressions of “light” and “dark” programs.
And it’s not as simple as light vs dark, because the Cathar thread includes deep shadow patterns around sacrifice, martyrdom and saviour programming.
Sometimes I could feel the threads in conflict, like they were pulling me in different directions. It was like having one foot on the accelerator and one foot on the brake while trying to “drive” my own life.
We know that trauma has epigenetic ripple effects. I believe that one dark personality ancestor can change the entire genetic line by switching certain traits on and switching other traits off.
But now that I’m supporting people to focus on this work, it’s clear that we can wipe that stuff from our ancestral lineage by working consciously with the Earth and the Sun and the Milky Way and our ancestors to wash epigenetic programming out of our DNA.
In both of the lineage threads I’ve been working with over the past 10 years, there are some epigenetic switches that I’d like to keep “switched on” and some that it’s time to “switch off”.
Part of the reason I chose my parents for this lifetime is that my soul wanted another chance to reconcile those two contrasting, competing threads. To bring them together and weave them into a new coherent story, through my physical human experience.
That reconciliation happened faster once I saw the threads as bigger than just my family’s tapestry, and looked at how family patterns connect with transpersonal energies affecting all of us.
Chapter 2 - You Can’t See Them, But They’re All Around You
I’m a bit fixated on collective thought forms right now. In every conversation, I sense their presence. Everywhere I go, I feel them close by.
Something shows up in my daily life and I think “I wonder what collective thought forms are connected to this?”
In French they’re called egregores: non-physical thought forms that become entities, arising from the collective thoughts and emotions of a group of individuals.
Egregores can be as exotic as Freemasonry but they can be as everyday as a core belief like “not enough”.
Being connected to an egregore can make you feel like a puppet. As if someone’s pulling your strings and it’s hard to resist.
When you’re connected to an egregore, it’s like having a stalker always there ready to whisper in your ear:
you haven’t worked hard enough
you’re not pretty/smart/healed enough
you haven’t done enough
you’re not enough
Imagine the power the collective thought form of “not enough” gathers over thousands of years with millions and then billions of people thinking that same thought over and over and over again, every day.
These entities can accumulate huge power over time. But they’re not all-powerful, once you know how to handle them and unplug yourself.
Chapter 3: The Local and the Global
Family patterns create collective thought forms as close family members think the same thoughts over generations.
But what about when one million families share the same pattern?
Or one billion families?
Well… they create a higher-level collective thought form.
All the family members are then plugged into BOTH egregores… the “local” one, powered by their immediate family AND the “global” one, powered by ALL the families who feed it.
When an epigenetic pattern you carry is plugged into a “global” egregore, you need to see the global entity in order to unplug yourself.
Many approaches to healing “family patterns” don’t recognise this “global” connection, which is one reason why so many of us have felt like we were going in circles for 20+ years.
If this sounds a bit abstract, I’ll give you a couple of specific examples from my own family story.
Chapter 4 - The Thought Form of Freemasonry
My ancestor was a Freemason (read the full story here).
I know this because in the first week of May 2025, I got an email from the local council about a lookout in the area that bore the name of my ancestor. The email linked to his obituary, which noted that his funeral service included two different ceremonies - Anglican and Freemason. His pallbearers were also from the Masons. So I realised he must have been quite a senior Freemason to receive those honours.
I was aware that specific branches of the Freemasons - especially at the highest levels of initiation - engage in ritualistic practices that direct devotional energy to particular entities.
I also knew that powerful egregores had formed around the Freemason organisation in Australia (and worldwide) over the past few hundred/thousand years.
Having supported clients who’ve survived ritual abuse by Freemasons, I’ve sensed collective thought forms created by/from/with both “victims” and “perpetrators”.
What I wasn’t aware of, hiding in my own epigenetic programming, was an oath my ancestor had made committing his descendants to be “food” for the dark god that his branch of Freemasonry worshipped.
Once I became aware of that oath I did some work to rescind, revoke, undo and unwind any vows, contracts, or agreements that my ancestor had made on behalf of his descendants. And I forgave him.
The process felt complete.
I congratulated myself, thinking “Wow, I’ve done a good thing for my whole family. It’s done.”
And then my digestion fell apart.
Chapter 5: The Egregore of Slavery
A couple of months after undoing the Freemason oath, my digestion completely collapsed. I tried all the physical, dietary, and supplement things but nothing worked. I couldn’t figure out what was going on.
As we talked about my ancestors and my digestion, a friend suggested there might be another puzzle piece I needed to examine relating to my ancestor’s use of indentured South Sea Islander labourers in his sugar cane fields.
So I consulted a local shamanic bodyworker who put his hands on my belly and tuned in. After a couple of minutes of silence and gentle touch he said, “Okay, I can feel those South Sea Islanders. They cursed this man, and they’re still very angry. They don’t want to let it go.”
He said, “Give me a minute. I’m going to explain something to them.”
A few moments later, he said, “I had to show them that as long as they stayed in judgment and condemnation - as long as they held on to that curse - they were also cursing their own descendants and holding them in a very unhappy place. Once I showed them that, they got it. They were able to let it go. It’s clearing now.”
He also said, “Somehow you’ve ended up holding some of this emotion in your large intestine. Let’s move that energy so it can leave.”
We spent the next hour helping my body let go of the stored energy and emotion. There was a reconciliation between me and the South Sea Islanders.
When we finished I realised the treatment room was very close to the old river port, where the boats docked when the South Sea Islanders were brought to this place. It seemed like the location was significant - as if it helped to be on the land there to close the open loop.
It took a couple of months for my digestion to repair, but now it’s working better than it has since I was a child.
Chapter 6: Four Steps to Unplug Yourself
To allow “Freemason” programming to leave my genetic line I had to recognise the bigger game, consciously reclaim my sovereignty, rescind active agreements, and redraw my energy from the egregore.
Ending the “family curse” required a similar process:
1. Recognise the bigger game.
Bringing egregores into your conscious awareness seems to be a precondition for unplugging. It’s hard to let something go if you can’t see it.
In my example, I sensed that dispossessed original people, enslaved South Sea Islanders and descendants of the British colonists were all plugged into the same egregore. I see/sense it as something like a large vampire squid, with tentacles. A tentacle holding the enslaved and one holding the slave masters. A tentacle holding the “losers” and another holding the “winners”.
But your ATTENTION is more powerful than you may realise. Once you see these collective thought forms, the attachments immediately start to loosen.
2. Consciously reclaim your sovereignty.
Here’s where INTENTION matters. You must know that you have both the authority AND the power to act as Lightbearer for your lineage. If you don’t believe you can end the cycle, the next step won’t work.
NOTE: If you’re lacking belief, you can enquire about which version/s of you don’t yet believe it’s possible to be free. Having awareness of them will help stuck old energies start to move.
3. Rescind active agreements.
DNA contamination is real. Families share lore: “things we believe and agree to be true”. Family lore forms epigenetic programs, which often originate in specific decisions and promises your ancestors made.
But your declarations also have power. Specific words can undo vows, agreements, contracts and self-imposed curses made by your ancestors. When said out loud and with conviction, your declarations work to unwind their agreements.
4. Unplug and redraw your energy from the egregore.
There’s no special magic formula to unplugging - again, it’s intentional.
But habitual thought patterns can be tricky. It might take a little while to stop feeding the collective thought form. This is a time to be gentle with yourself and pay attention to your thoughts (and the actions that follow).
A game I like to play with/in my mind is to imagine that every time I follow a thought that saps my energy, I’m depositing a coin in an egregore’s piggy bank.
And every time I notice it happening, I get to take the coin back. Then I can “spend” that coin another way - either saving it in my own piggy bank for another day, or doing something that regenerates my life force right now (like taking 2 minutes outside to breathe and look at the sky, instead of picking up my phone).
NOTE: I spend more time looking at the sky than I used to. I’m convinced the Milky Way is supporting us right now to recognise the bigger game and master it together.
Chapter 7: What the Milky Way is Teaching Me
I started connecting with the Milky Way’s energy in April 2025.
And I’m certain it’s not a coincidence that I started consciously connecting to the Earth, the Sun, and the Milky Way as a daily practice only a month before the latest chapter in this ancestral story started to unfold quickly in May 2025.
Something in the conscious connection to the Milky Way seems to help shift the ancestral imprints and programs woven into our DNA. It feels like the Milky Way helps us to unplug from egregores too.
It’s like a gentle massaging, so any old residue can be released relatively easily, without force, in an organic, natural unfoldment (rather than a mind-driven “I’m going to heal this now!”)
If you’re like me and feeling safe in your human body has been a challenge this lifetime, wait until you experience what it feels like to be held by the Milky Way as your attention stays anchored in your body, at the same time. I promise this feels different.
This process has demanded a different way of relating to my body, my human incarnation and my “healing journey”. It’s opened up a sense of freedom and lightness… liberation from a heavy weight I hadn’t even realised I was carrying because until now, it was just part of me. Now that it’s not, I’m way more able to notice delightful moments in my everyday life.
And I wasn’t ready to do this until now, because I didn’t have all the tools I needed before this year.
Chapter 8: Do Egregores Hold This Reality Together?
I’m starting to wonder whether collective thought forms are what’s holding the tired old power structures in place on this planet.
Not all collective thought forms are unhelpful. Some are beautifully life-affirming, such as meditation groups (or monks on a long walk) who successfully maintain a shared focus on peace in a time of conflict.
But those life-affirming egregores have not held the balance of power on this planet, at least not (yet) in our lifetimes.
As people struggle to grasp the implications of the first Epstein document drop, many of us can sense that collective thought forms are highly activated right now.
And I’m forming a picture of how Earth’s reality could have worked, for thousands of years.
What if every human has their own personal (baby) vampire squid? Attached to you, harvesting every thought and emotion and bio-electrical impulse that isn’t generated from inside an active connection with your Higher Self.
When any human establishes a relationship with another human, a collective thought form is created. Some of those “intimate relationship” egregores affirm life. Many do not.
Every family whose members are not enlightened (so… all families, right?) has a vampire squid attached, feeding on any dysfunction in the family system.
Every school, village, town, city, association, business, nation, corporation, spiritual cult, religion, New Age healing modality, and tribe has a vampire squid attached, feeding on dis-ease of the members.
And every vampire squid feeds the squid above it in the heirarchy.
The Earth has had a vampire squid attached. It’s been keeping her enslaved.
Our entire Solar System has been wrapped inside a vampire squid too, for a long time.
That could help explain how a death cult establishes and maintains the balance of power on a planet for thousands of years.
In my symbolic map of this reality, Epstein created and connected to multiple egregores. But it would be a mistake to place him at the top of the hierarchy. He was mid-level management, at most.
I have opinions about who his managers were, but those are not for this article.
It’s enough to say that the feeding frenzy is ending. And you can help accelerate its conclusion.
Chapter 9 - What You Can Do to Clean Up Epstein’s Contamination of This Reality
You can unplug from these egregores… and starve the vampire squids into irrelevance.
You can get real about where that contamination has been feeding from you… and consciously disengage.
Because you are anything but powerless in this reality. And to an egregore, your awareness is the beginning of its end.
Collective thought forms are way bigger than family systems, but the dysfunctional themes that repeat within your family will give you excellent clues about which egregores you’re attached to.
In other words, yes - you are connected to multiple thought forms outside your family system… but family patterns are a great starting point for becoming aware of the egregores that have drained your power.
NOTE: Working with/for the collective is not for everyone. If your nervous system capacity is limited right now, dealing with egregores may feel overwhelming. In that case, it will probably serve you better to focus on supporting your nervous system for a while.
But if you are feeling the pull to step into the Lightbearer role for your genetic lineage, take a moment to tune in.
What if you started relating to your most stubborn family patterns as if they’re being triggered by a vampire squid that you’re plugged into and feeding?
What could your body (and your life) feel like if you unplugged yourself?
May this year bring the freedom you’ve spent lifetimes working towards.
big love
Belinda ❤️🔥